The decision to divorce is one of the most emotionally painful and difficult situations that married couples face. In most cases, the two individuals are not at the same place in the relationship and often do not agree which direction to take the relationship. Divorce can be a scary option for most individuals. There are many unknowns. How will this affect the children? Who will get the house? Will I be able to make it on my own? What if I am making the wrong decision?

Most couples do not equally agree on the need to split.

In most cases, one person is more prepared to end the relationship than the other. The announcement of even the thought of divorce is often a shock to the other partner and can be destabilizing.

If you are considering divorce, now is the time to meet with a couples therapist. Clarity Intensives at GROW Counseling are an option designed to help couples work through this difficult decision in a safe, structured, and supportive environment. Unlike traditional couple’s therapy, ambivalence counseling assumes that one partner is considering ending the marriage.

The goals of the Clarity Intensive include evaluating the pros and cons of staying in the marriage and understand the individual contributions that led to the condition of the marriage. The Ambivalence Intensive usually includes six to eight hours of counseling over two days.

It takes two people to stay married.

Some couples conclude clarity counseling deciding that divorce is the best alternative for them. When this is the case, most find that the process helps them to better understand their contributions to the state of the marriage. However, often times individuals will conclude from the that they have not done all they could do to see if their marriage could be saved.

If you or your spouse are not certain if you want to remain married, the Clarity Intensive may be what the two of you need for emotional peace and a sense of direction. If you have more questions about the process, you can fill our our short information form and we will give you a call to discuss further. We know how difficult this decision is for you and your family.

Jackie Dunagan, LAMFT
jdunagan @ GROWcounseling.com