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How to Motivate your Partner to Attend Couples Therapy

How to Motivate your Partner to Attend Couples Therapy

Couples therapy, for many individuals, continues to be seen as this mysterious, unforeseeable process that can be very anxiety-provoking to embark upon. Depending on your culture, beliefs and value system, turning to an “outsider” may be a very difficult decision for either partner.

As a couples therapist, one of the first questions that I ask when I receive a call is, “is your partner motivated to come in as well?” Typically, when couples need therapy it is because they have accumulated many disagreements that are causing distress.

It would seem predictable that couples may disagree on how they should get help.

Below are a few strategies that I recommend to motivate your partner to attend couples therapy:

  • Set aside some time to talk – Many times couples realize they need help during a heated argument. A crisis call to a couples therapist may seem like the best way to jumpstart the process. This strategy may quickly backfire and lead to a change of mind or your partner feeling forced or pressured to attend. I recommend setting some time aside to talk about entering into couples therapy when both partners are calm or getting along. This will give each partner a chance to express in a healthy way how much they value their relationship and fears of losing it.
  • Choose your therapist together – This strategy allows a sense of fairness and partnership to unfold even before therapy begins. The therapeutic relationship is a vital part of a successful outcome. It is important that each partner gets to weigh in on what attributes in a therapist are most important to them. I recommend you each talk with the therapist before making a decision.
  • Start individual therapy – In the case that your partner continues to be unmotivated to attend couples therapy, schedule an individual session for yourself. This is an excellent form of self-care for any individual dealing with the emotional distress of relationship problems. This strategy can help motivate your partner to start once they see the positive changes in you!
  • Stay positive and be patient – Just because your partner is not ready to attend couples therapy when you are doesn’t mean they will not ever be ready. In matters of domestic violence, adultery, addiction and mental illness, it is imperative to get help right away for your safety. If your partner is contemplating attending and may need more time to think I recommend giving them the space to do so.

Porsha Jones, LMFT
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Couples in Crisis – Affair Recovery for Pro Athletes

Couples in Crisis – Affair Recovery for Pro Athletes

Pro athletes live a unique lifestyle, which most would consider a separate culture from mainstream. Within this culture of pro athletes, adultery and infidelity is considered common practice as reported by many pro athlete spouses and partners that I treat. Many times these violations are illuminated through social media as well as headline news which…

Student-Athletes:  Tips on how to Stay Emotionally Fit During the Holidays

Student-Athletes: Tips on how to Stay Emotionally Fit During the Holidays

The holidays are typically an exciting time for students. This is a time for taking a break from rigorous academic schedules, spending more time with loved ones from far and near and eating traditional foods you’ve waited for all year long.

Most student-athletes have a very different outlook on the holiday season. The holidays can be a very stressful and sacrificing time for them.Read More »

Letter to Parents of an Injured Student-Athlete

Letter to Parents of an Injured Student-Athlete

You are not alone. Did you know that according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control high school students account for an estimated 2 million injuries each year? Although this may be true, when it happens to your son or daughter you may feel very alone and alienated. After the panic and relief that your child is “ok” wears off, the disbelief and disappointment starts to set in. Does this sound familiar? Depending on the injury, you may begin to wonder how your child’s ability to play will be impacted in the future. You may have feelings of helplessness because you can’t “fix” the situation. All of these feelings and frustrations are very normal but may cause significant emotional distress without proper care. This difficult experience can be managed by a variety of coping skills.Read More »

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