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The Perfectionist Child

The Perfectionist Child

A little perfectionist likes order, rules, and thrives on certainty. Perfectionism can start at an early age and when parents or caregivers give these children the support they need, they will thrive. However, it can be challenging to teach young children how to to deal with the inevitable reality that not everything can be achieved with perfection.

So what does perfectionism in children look like and how can you help them?

Here are just a few perfectionistic characteristics you might see in children:

  • Focusing on mistakes rather than successes
  • Low self esteem, depression, anxiety and anger
  • Being overly cautious
  • Believing there is only one right way to do a task
  • Their inability to tolerate mistakes makes them less likely to try new things or take creative risks

How You Can Help:

  • Model acceptance of mistakes and constructive coping skills.
  • Offer patience and understanding.
  • Assist in modifying or adjusting their internal standards.
  • Teach them to break tasks into chunks and encourage them to take one piece at time.
  • Remind them that you love them unconditionally.
  • Teach them that mistakes and failures are normal and essential steps in the learning process.

If you notice that your child’s perfectionism is really interfering with their happiness, social and emotional development in addition to physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach aches, sleep problems, unrelenting anger and tantrums, or difficulty at school, it’s time to seek help professional help.

Michelle Rathburn, MSMFT
mrathburn@growcounseling.com

Blended Family: Tips for Surviving the Holiday Season

Blended Family: Tips for Surviving the Holiday Season

If you are in a blended family, the holidays may seem like the most difficult time of the year rather than the most wonderful.  Splitting time between more than one household is can be stressful. Time always seems too short. You can’t please everyone or feel like you always draw the short straw. Here are…

Happiness, Joy and Thanksgiving

Happiness, Joy and Thanksgiving

At a popular bookseller, the self-help aisle is currently filled with titles such as The Art of Happiness, Authentic Happiness and Stumbling on Happiness. Next door, the “seasonal aisle” at our local drug store is currently in combo mode. On one side of the aisle is Halloween candy and decorations. On the other, Christmas. It…

Mindfulness and Managing the Stress of Holiday Travel

Mindfulness and Managing the Stress of Holiday Travel

For many people, the holiday season involves travel and inevitably stress and anxiety. However, a little bit of mindfulness can help turn that anxiety around. Being crammed into a steel tube with a hundred complete strangers (most of whom have a cold) and being catapulted through the air at 20,000 feet can bring out anxiety…

Conflict Tools You Can Use

Conflict Tools You Can Use

While perusing Pinterest and looking for posts regarding conflict, I came across the following quote: 10% of conflict is due to difference of opinion and 90% is due to tone of voice and delivery. I was curious about the origin. While I was not able to find consensus as to the author, it seems to…

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