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The Perfectionist Child

The Perfectionist Child

A little perfectionist likes order, rules, and thrives on certainty. Perfectionism can start at an early age and when parents or caregivers give these children the support they need, they will thrive. However, it can be challenging to teach young children how to to deal with the inevitable reality that not everything can be achieved with perfection.

So what does perfectionism in children look like and how can you help them?

Here are just a few perfectionistic characteristics you might see in children:

  • Focusing on mistakes rather than successes
  • Low self esteem, depression, anxiety and anger
  • Being overly cautious
  • Believing there is only one right way to do a task
  • Their inability to tolerate mistakes makes them less likely to try new things or take creative risks

How You Can Help:

  • Model acceptance of mistakes and constructive coping skills.
  • Offer patience and understanding.
  • Assist in modifying or adjusting their internal standards.
  • Teach them to break tasks into chunks and encourage them to take one piece at time.
  • Remind them that you love them unconditionally.
  • Teach them that mistakes and failures are normal and essential steps in the learning process.

If you notice that your child’s perfectionism is really interfering with their happiness, social and emotional development in addition to physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach aches, sleep problems, unrelenting anger and tantrums, or difficulty at school, it’s time to seek help professional help.

Michelle Rathburn, MSMFT
mrathburn@growcounseling.com

What Does Emotional Intelligence Mean? Part 1

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Self Care During Election Season

Self Care During Election Season

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Our Schools & The Mental Health Crisis

Our Schools & The Mental Health Crisis

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The Power of Play

The Power of Play

Kids look like small adults. They may even sound like mini grownups sometimes, especially when they get a little sassy or parrot back a parents’ own words to them. However, their brains haven’t matured to the same place that an adult brain has, so they process things and work through them very differently than an…

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